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Have you/some of your badass followers read the book or seen the movie Divergent? If so, what are your thoughts on it and it's representation of women? I saw the movie a few days ago, and I personally found it very liberating to see a movie with a badass heroine like Tris and I also think it was great how the movie highlighted the necessity of consent in the romantic situations to name something. I'd love to hear other feminist's views!

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misandry-mermaid:

I didn’t see it, but any of my followers that did can chime in.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t Divergent the movie/book with the ridiculously graphic rape/attempted rape scene? I remember someone saying something about a movie coming out that had to do with that and how they major issues with it.

In summation,  some feminists were trying to say that the way the main character fought her way out of a rape scene was the best thing in the world and that’s how you should handle trying to be raped. They were pretty much belittling and discrediting other rape survivors saying they “handled rape the wrong way” as if there was some sort of correct way.

If I have the wrong movie, then I apologize deeply.

I’m not sure how graphic it was, but it was definitely jarring and could easily be triggering. Particularly because in the book, the scene was simply about her fear of intimacy.  

“This is the fear I have no solutions for—a boy I like, who wants to…have sex with me? Simulation Tobias kisses my neck. I try to think. I have to face the fear. I have t o take control of the situation and find a way to make it less frightening. I look Simulation Tobias in the eye and say sternly, “I am not going to sleep with you in a hallucination. Okay?” Then I grab him by his shoulders and turn us around, pushing him against the bedpost. I feel something other than fear—a prickle in my stomach, a bubble of laughter. I press against him and kiss him, my hands wrapping around his arms.

He feels strong. He feels…good. And he’s gone.”

That was the scene in the book, where as in the movie she was kicking and fighting him off. Other than that, and other than the fucked up people saying “that’s how you handle rape”, it was a decent movie. The badass women, including the lead, was sort of breath of fresh air.

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On a scale of 1-10 how bad of an idea is it to try to dye my eyebrows

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I had to do pages of this in OCD therapy w/o explanations, disclaimers, or any negative comments!

I think I’m going to have to try to do these more often- its crazy how hard it was to just come up with 5 things!

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I read several dozen stories a year from miserable, lonely guys who insist that women won’t come near them despite the fact that they are just the nicest guys in the world.

..I’m asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don’t say that you’re a nice guy — that’s the bare minimum.

“Well, I’m not sexist or racist or greedy or shallow or abusive! Not like those other douchebags!”

I’m sorry, I know that this is hard to hear, but if all you can do is list a bunch of faults you don’t have, then back the fuck away..

..Don’t complain about how girls fall for jerks; they fall for those jerks because those jerks have other things they can offer. “But I’m a great listener!” Are you? Because you’re willing to sit quietly in exchange for the chance to be in the proximity of a pretty girl (and spend every second imagining how soft her skin must be)? Well guess what, there’s another guy in her life who also knows how to do that, and he can play the guitar. Saying that you’re a nice guy is like a restaurant whose only selling point is that the food doesn’t make you sick. You’re like a new movie whose title is This Movie Is in English, and its tagline is “The actors are clearly visible”.

David Wong, 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person  (via coolgrandpa)

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(...I didn't send this to you already, did I...??) Once you get this you have to say 5 nice things about yourself publicly then send it to 10 of your favourite followers (but not back to me, I did it already). Thinking good thoughts about yourself is hard but it will make you feel better so give it a go, for the sake of spreading positivity!

@pearlsorpoison

You didn’t and this is really nice. And surprisingly hard!

1. Other than eczema, I have really nice skin.

2.  I’m good at baking.

3.  Perhaps I’m not allowed to decide if I’m a good friend, but I try really hard to be and that at least is a good thing, right?

4. I’m very patient.

5. I really like helping people, even if all I can do is listen to them talk and work things out for themselves. 

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“Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience.”

Paulo Coelho  (via seulray)

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“Don’t ever compliment me by insulting other women. That’s not a compliment, it’s a competition none of us agreed to.”

jaythenerdkid (via effiestrinkets)

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